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Nov. 5th, 2010 03:44 am#tweetyour16yearoldself made me think today. What would I really tell the 16 year old me? There's not a lot that she did that I'd do differently and I'm not entirely sure I'd want to cos I'm rather fond of the me 16 years on from her. Could I even say it in 116 characters? As it turned out, not really, not well.
I wanna tell her it's ok, and that she's doing ok even if she doesn't feel it. I want to tell her not to worry about being confused, that you don't have to be one or the other, that yer one is straight and yer man isn't interested and that's not a pattern that's really going to change a lot for at least the next 16 years so she'd better get used to it. I want to tell her that what she's reading is good for her, that the ideas that are forming might not be popular and might make her life difficult but they'll make it a damn sight more fun and some of them will make life a lot better for others. That she'll find her way. And that it was never, ever her fault. Cos I know she needed to hear that at the time.
I wanna tell her just how good life gets. How it doesn't get easier, but she'll never be given more than she can handle. That she's gonna meet some pretty amazing people, who'll help her through the bad times and how the people she knows now will still be there in her life. That swearing is fun, that "I don't know" aren't dirty words. Oh, and that sex is also so much fun and that she's definitely got some good ideas on that score. I also wish I could tell her to let more photos be taken of herself, cos 16 years on she won't remember what her natural hair colour is and tell her that she was never, ever as fat as she thought she was.
But most of all I just wanna tell her that it's gonna be ok. It really is.
I wanna tell her it's ok, and that she's doing ok even if she doesn't feel it. I want to tell her not to worry about being confused, that you don't have to be one or the other, that yer one is straight and yer man isn't interested and that's not a pattern that's really going to change a lot for at least the next 16 years so she'd better get used to it. I want to tell her that what she's reading is good for her, that the ideas that are forming might not be popular and might make her life difficult but they'll make it a damn sight more fun and some of them will make life a lot better for others. That she'll find her way. And that it was never, ever her fault. Cos I know she needed to hear that at the time.
I wanna tell her just how good life gets. How it doesn't get easier, but she'll never be given more than she can handle. That she's gonna meet some pretty amazing people, who'll help her through the bad times and how the people she knows now will still be there in her life. That swearing is fun, that "I don't know" aren't dirty words. Oh, and that sex is also so much fun and that she's definitely got some good ideas on that score. I also wish I could tell her to let more photos be taken of herself, cos 16 years on she won't remember what her natural hair colour is and tell her that she was never, ever as fat as she thought she was.
But most of all I just wanna tell her that it's gonna be ok. It really is.
